A Philosophy for Life
On Clubhouse, there’s been an idea floating around that “Leave Quietly” is the killer feature of the platform.
If you hop into a room, and aren’t feeling the vibe, leave quietly.
If the conversations been going for a while, and you need to get some sleep, leave quietly.
If the room goes off topic, and you’re no longer interested in the subject, leave quietly.
The dynamic nature of the platform allows people to gracefully depart, and there generally seems to be a culture where the assumption is that the person who left had something more important to do than hang out on Clubhouse. No one gets offended, and there is usually and endless supply of other people waiting to contribute to the conversation.
In contrast, I recently joined a few new Facebook groups and in one of the groups, a member announced:
This spawned hundreds of comments with the general sentiment of “Good riddance, I don’t care,” as well as links to other groups with tens of thousands of members shaming “leabers” such as i’m leabing this gronp and more specifically, i’M leaBing diS gRonp and i”M neber cubBing bAk!!! Seems like a lot of wasted energy.
Now, there are obvious exceptions to this rule. For example, it’s not cool to just bail completely on family or close relationships, though in some abusive cases, I can see how this might be necessary. However, it seems with modern society, friendships and relationships are pretty dynamic, and people may leave quietly from your life. Or just forget to respond to a message on one of the dozen messaging apps that exist.
In this sense, life feels a lot like Clubhouse. People come in and out of your life, sometimes you share a stage, sometimes you are just in the same room, and people come and go. If someone leaves quietly, it’s probably not about you.
Seasons change, and if the frequencies match again in the future, perhaps people will return. Ultimately, it seems like the best practice is to raise your own vibration, and practice gratitude, love, and enjoy this room of life that we all find ourselves in, as much as we can… and enjoy the people who are choosing to share the stages and rooms with you.